Så eg har skreve denne engelsk teksten og lurer kjapt på kva dåke trur er muleg karakter? :)

[SindreP98]

Effective communication

The way you communicate has a big impact on your ability to get along with people and get the things that you want in the right way. Good communication skills can help you avoid a conflict and to solve problems wich u may have created before. Open and honest communication is also one of the most important thing for making friends and having good relationships.

Styles of communication

Communication can be shown in many ways and with different results, both positive and negative. Communication can be aggressive, passive or assertive. Poor communication often creates tension and bad feelings within relationships.

Aggressive communication is expressed in a forceful and hostile manner and some might even get scared, and usually involves alienating messages such as you-statements (blaming the other person and accusing them of being wrong or at fault) and labeling (giving the person you are having the conversation with names).

A person’s voice and facial expressions can also project unfriendliness. Aggressive and hostile communication can send the message “your needs don’t matter,” or “I do not care about your oppinion.”

Passive communication involves putting your needs last and the other person infront of you, showing that you care. When you communicate passively, you don’t express your thoughts or feelings or ask for what you want. When you use passive communication, it may feel like others are ignoring you completely and just walking all over you because you don’t assert your own needs. As a result, you might bottle things up and might feel resentful. Passive communication can send the message ”my needs don’t matter,” or “you win and I loose.”

Assertive communication involves clearly expressing what you think, how you feel and what you want, without demanding that you must have things your way. ”we both matter, so let’s try to make this happen/work out.”

Assertive communication increases your likelihood of getting what you want, avoiding conflict and maintaining good relationships. Everyone should try to win in these situations.

When you are assertive you can:

Express your own thoughts, feelings and needs.

Make reasonable requests of other people, while accepting his or her right to say ”no”.

Stand up for your own rights.

Say “no” to requests from others when you want to, without feeling guilty.

Here is one example:

Kåre is feeling angry. He is supposed to get his driver license next week, and for the past month his mother has telling him that she would take him out driving, but it never seemed to happen. Kåre feels frustrated and kind of ignored because he needs the practice before the test.

On Tuesday, Kåre came home from school and asked his mother if they could go for a drive. His mom said he couldn’t because she had some work to do at home and that it needed to be done as soon as possible.

Finally at his breaking point, Kåre just exploded. “You just don’t give a single S**T about me, do you? You are such a liar! You never do what you say you’re going to do,” he yelled.

In return his mother got all fired up, called Kåre a spoiled brick who doesn’t think about anyone but himself. Both Kåre and his mother were angry at each other for a long time after this argument over such a simple thing.

This is a good example of how poor communication can lead to conflict and bad and/or hurt feelings. Let’s have a look at some of the errors that led to this angry outburst.

Error 1: Making an assumption

Kåre expected his mom to know what she was thinking and feeling, without clearly telling her. Until the time of the argument, his mom had no idea how important it was to Kåre to get the extra driving practice. She thought that Kåre felt confident about the test and assumed he just wanted to go for a drive for fun, which they could do anytime.

Kåre, on the other hand, had assumed that his mother knew how important it was for him to get some more practice even though he never told her, and therefore interpreted his mom’s attitude as not caring.

Assumptions occur in most relationships and people get upset because of these misunderstandings. Often we expect people to know what we are thinking—we believe that they should be able to understand where we are coming from, even though we haven’t expressed it clearly.

An important aspect of good communication is to tell others what we’re thinking and want and also to not assume that they already know.

In Kåre’s case, the situation could have turned out better if he had communicated more clearly in the first place, by saying something like “mom, I’ve got my driver’s license test on Tuesday next week, and I’m feeling nervous about it. Do you have some time this week to take me out on a few drives? What days would work for you?”

By clearly communicating that going for a drive is very important to him, Kåre gives his mom a better understanding of where he’s coming from and how he is feeling. By scheduling specific time(s) strengthens the commitment and makes it easier for both of them to plan ahead.

Error 2: Avoiding communication

Kåre didn’t say anything until he was very angry. Each time his mom cancelled the planned drive, Kåre said nothing. Over time, Kåre stewed about it more and more, and finally he exploded. This type of situation is like a pot boiling on the stove—if you don’t let off a little steam as time passes, eventually the pressure builds up and it boils over. Whenever we’re feeling upset, it’s better to talk about it as soon as possible, rather than letting things build up. If we say nothing, we won’t get what we want and our frustration grows.

Communication problems often arise because we don’t say how we feel, what we think or what we want. People often avoid communicating because they are embarrassed or concerned about upsetting the other person. Sometimes we just assume that others should know what we think. The problem is that when you don’t say what you need to say, it increases the likelihood of feeling angry, resentful and frustrated. This may lead to tension or even to angry outbursts.

Error 3: Labeling

Kåre and his mom also used labels to criticize each other. Labels such as “liar” or “spoiled brick,” can be offensive. When we label another person, it can feel like we are attacking them, and that person’s first reaction is usually to attack back.

Attacks lead to heated arguments and conflict. Labels are an example of alienating messages, because they criticize the person rather than the behavior. It is OK to criticize someone’s behavior (for example,“I think what you did was unfair”), but labeling the whole person (”You are unfair”) is unreasonable and creates bad feelings between people.

Eg kopierte denne kjapt fra word så det ser jo F**KA ut men eg vil bare ha kjappe kommentarer om kva dåke synest :O

Slutten kunne kanksje vert litt annerledes men eg hadde ikkje allverden av tid igjen når eg leverte...

[Compoundinterest]

Dette er ikke svar på oppgaven. Karakter 2.

[€uropa]

En mulig karakter er 1, da lærerens plagiatkontroll vil slå ut på grunn av denne siden.

[technicality]

My eyes... T_T lavt...uansett hvilket nivå

Endret 9. januar 2015 av technicality

[Gennaro]

Denne tråden bør du slette snarest. Som Zarac sier, dette dukker opp når de kjører plagiatkontroll.

 

Når det er sagt kan det hende innholdet feller deg uansett.

[EngineeringStudent]

orket ikke å lese hele, men så noen ting jeg ville endret.

Du bruker bla. ordet "communication" litt for mye. Jeg vet at teksten handler om det, men kan forsatt variere ved å bruke ordet f.eks. it. Du kan gjøre den til intetkjønn og skape et bedre språk.
Når vi snakker om variasjon i språk, så jeg på første setning "many ways" ville brukt various ways istedenfor

 

Kan du ikke bruke et annet navn for Kåre? Bokstaven Å brukes jo ikke i det engelske språk

 

 

 

 

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